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Your friends will make or break you. Good friends won’t even know that they are empowering you to do better and their positive influence will take you further than you can imagine. The better they do, the better you do. It’s natural to want to keep up.
On the other hand, bad friends will consciously encourage you to be bad and the worse you do, the better it makes them look and feel. They get to feel good about themselves by comparison when you do bad things. The more you fail and the deeper the trouble that you find yourself in, the better they feel. Makes one think doesn’t it? Is it a ” true friend” who encourages you to do drugs or drink alcohol or is it someone that tells you to walk away… possibly preventing you from getting hooked and turning your life upside down? Be smart about this very important and difficult to swallow conclusion. You will make very few true friends in your life. Once you recognize a true friend, you should do all you can to be even a better friend back to them. Of the thousands of people that you will meet in your life, less than a handful will unconditionally be there for you when you really need them.
Bad friends are everywhere; they come and go, spreading their negativity and deceit around everyone they encounter. Once it is obvious that they can’t use you or get anything they want from you, they will move on to another, leaving you disappointed, disillusioned, less trusting and a consequently a little less capable of making really good friends in the future. Beware of losing your ability to trust because of the bad judgment you made when you chose your last so called friend(s).
Every time something goes wrong and you lose someone you thought was a good friend, you will probably get disappointed and little more skeptical which could possibly lead you to lose a little of what it takes to be a real good friend to someone else in the future. Choose your friends wisely!View Entire Blog | Comments (0)
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Learn at least one new thing everyday – it will be incredible later on when you realize just how much knowledge you have accumulated. Anything you don’t fully understand or might find remotely interesting should have a little time invested into it! If one makes it a goal to learn at least one new thing every day, it will eventually snowball and your general knowledge will soar. Consider reading the news for a start and understand what is going on around you and how it actually makes people feel. A conversation about anything interesting should always be on the tip of your tongue. People will appreciate your ability to hold a conversation about a topic of interest. If not, your encounters with most people will be quite short. Seek to know more about anything worthwhile and then look to share it. Be diversified, there is so much great information out there. READ! Look at it as making a small deposit every day that matures into the future ‘big withdrawal’! Knowledge is the key to your future in as much as everyone knows that whoever knows more, wins! It’s that simple. Parents can offer nothing more important that an education for their kids. More they cannot control and so it is up to each and every individual not to waste any opportunities. Those who chose to skip the effort needed to have more, simply do without. To stake a claim in the world, you need act with intent, there are no other ways that work. Start by expanding your knowledge of something you like as soon as possible and if there isn’t anything that you like, start with yourself. Find out as much as you can about yourself and then do whatever necessary measures are needed to make you like yourself, and the rest will be much easier.View Entire Blog | Comments (0)
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Do What You Say You Are You Going To Do! This concept is one of the most powerful ideas of our time. Imagine knowing someone that is always reliable, truthful, on time, consistent and trustworthy. Can you think of anyone like that? Is this person always respectful of your time?
Does this someone tell you that they will call you, meet you, help you or set aside some time for you and then actually come through? Have you ever called someone only to get their voice-mail that clearly states that if you leave a message they will call you back but they never do? How is one supposed to interpret this all too common phenomenon?
One of the loosest threads in the fabric of our society is the frequency at which people just straight out say one thing and mean another. If a meeting is called for 8 o’clock, people almost never show up ready to meet at 8 o’clock. There is seldom a call to apologize for running late and no consideration at all that the person(s) that you are meeting may have had to undergo some stress to get there on time, only to find out that you are not even close-by. The amount of speeding, stress and anxiety as well as the potential sacrificing of other important chores would be drastically cut if only people actually really meant what they said. If people were mostly reliable and simply did what they said that they were going to do, nothing more, and it would be a very different world. For one, the productivity of everyone would increase exponentially and the quality of life for everyone from top to bottom would just be better, period!
Another common example of this is say I agree to receive an important call about a job that I am interested in on a certain afternoon at 3 o’clock. I commit to it and do not make other plans of any kind making sure that I am at or near the phone and available as agreed. Perhaps I have meanwhile turned down some other equally or more significant opportunity because I cannot miss the call based on the fact that I made a commitment.
All too often the call never comes as expected. What else does not come is a follow up explanation or apology, a sign of an unavoidable crisis, a good reason or even an unbelievable excuse for that matter. Consequently, I have rudely and indirectly been told in no uncertain terms that my time is not that important and seemingly, I don’t matter much to that person. This pretty astonishing behavior is very prevalent in today’s society.
So, now the damage is done and that relationship will typically not improve. Nevertheless, we live in a forgiving society or perhaps I really need that person to call me so I give them a second chance. It is however not inconceivable that I will eventually be let down again by this inconsiderate individual.
Eventually, I will label that person as flaky, a.k.a. unreliable and therefore undesirable and throw them on the pile of people that I have met who provided a less than desirable experience. And then, perhaps one day, an opportunity may come about that might be of great interest or reward to that person and guess what? I will either just pass up the chance to let them know or I will consider calling someone else, predictably someone that showed me a little respect at one time or another or at the very least has not yet proven to be flaky.
It may not seem that significant at the time but at some point it should be understood that when people make other people feel appreciated without really expecting anything in return, they will be the first ones to be offered favors and thought of when opportunities arise.
It is perhaps not yet well understood by many that everyone eventually needs to be given a break in life by someone else that is in a better position than you are to facilitate you on your path to success…your mission could be as simple as to be the kind of person that other people would want to help or reward. Enough said!View Entire Blog | Comments (0)
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Being truthful is a worthy habit to have! If you commit to always being truthful a lot of advantage will come out of it. The most important benefit is that you will always be trusted by others and this is simply priceless. No-one will ever fully commit their time, energy or resources to someone that they do not trust. Trust is a very sensitive issue. It is one of the most difficult things to gain but so easy to lose! It can take years to earn and just seconds to lose!
If you are known to be someone that always tell the truth, you will gain respect for it, another hard to come by gratification in life. When you are not trusted, respected or admired, it is safe to say that your quality of life in the future will likely not reach its full potential. You will ultimately be forced to live and work amongst others that are less trustworthy and respected because those are the only members of society that will give you the time of day. Be careful not to underestimate the peace and serenity that come with being trusted by trustworthy people. Nothing ever gained through dishonesty or deceit will give you the overall satisfaction that something that was legitimately earned or won will.
In fact, if you don’t deceive, you don’t have to remember who you told what to because the story will always be consistent and you can’t get embarrassed by being caught or exposed.
More and more today, people are yearning for a relationship with someone they can trust, a person to confide in and with whom they can create a lasting bond. Sad but true, it is not too often that you can refer to someone as an upstanding, classy, reliable and trustworthy individual. What a shame!
If one starts a pattern of deceit at a young age, they will most likely get away with it for a while and then eventually get caught and bear a cost far greater than anything gained by being dishonest or choosing the easy way out. A bad reputation is amongst the most difficult things to lose.
Look around, read the news, you will hear countless stories about people who have lied, cheated or stolen and how they have consequently lost everything dear to them, been fined, jailed or outcast; it is just a matter of time. The truth is the only way to go. Owning up to a mistake or admitting fault is one of the pillars that build character. Everyone messes up; admit it and it is usually gone forever. Cover it up and who know when it will come back to haunt you. How do you want to live?
It is often proven that overall; life is simply more meaningful, valuable and rewarding when it is based on the truth.View Entire Blog | Comments (0)
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OK, enough about, race, religion, ethnicity, background, hardships and the woe is me attitude! The bottom line is that you are going to be judged by the way in which you behave. The definitive truth is that if you belong to a group of people that are known to be behave in a certain way then you will be profiled based on the perception that the world has of that group…that is the harsh reality!
We live in a country and in time when hatred, racism and bigotry is as rampant as ever and the only way that it is going to stop or improve is if a group of targeted people start to change the way that they and their peers behave.
It is just plain old bad luck if you are born into a group of people that are known for something that most would consider to be unacceptable behavior and if you don’t like it you can start by behaving differently and then, be instrumental in the process of influencing others in that group to change their outlook and actions.
This will not happen overnight but if it is not even on the agenda then nothing will ever change! You and your family will be persecuted for no good reason other than you are perceived as belonging to a group that has a undesirable reputation!
It is a shame that truly good people bear the burden of those that look like them, pray to the same God as them or have the same ethnic name pattern as people who might often behave in an anti-social, destructive, violent, corrupt, dishonest or just plain evil way.
If parents and social leaders do not teach kids how to behave in a “human friendly” way than the trend to hate will continue and good people will be robbed of the opportunities that they justly deserve.
Every individual from any and every group on this planet, and we all belong to one group or another, is responsible for the overall image of that group.
There are ways to behave in a world shared by others. We all know it, and we cannot stand idly by while others ruin it for everyone. It is illogical to think that those that cause the harm will ever fix it. It starts with one person, you, doing the right thing and then passing it on.
This magnum task of improving the image of a group must be done together or nothing will ever get better, just worse and it is obvious that this is not want any good person wants to look forward to in their lives. It is time that good people stopped being afraid to confront t those that are behaving in such a way that it does nothing but ruin reputations, images and hinder the progress of the various societies that make up the world.View Entire Blog | Comments (0)
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It is amazing how many of us ignore important information. Signs are everywhere for good reason! Just look around! They can be divided into informational, instructional, warning and mandatory signs. What they have in common is that they are for our benefit or safety. They help us to better manage our lives. The more evident it is that people ignore signs the quicker they move from one category to another. A sign that is initially informative may soon become a warning or mandatory sign, sometimes with severe penalties for ignoring it because we live in a world where logic often escapes us. This comes about as a result of severe consequences for not only us but perhaps other innocent people.
A sign that says “DANGER” usually came about after some one was hurt or killed. A sign that shares directions was created after someone became lost. Education is mankind’s way of saying; “we tried and tried until we got it right. To save you the time and anguish will we show or tell you how to do it”. Everything has a reason for being and it is typically left up to you to find out what that reason is so as to incorporate the sense of it into your own life. This privilege allows you not to have to learn everything the hard way. Not everyone survives the school of hard knocks which can take years off your life and sometimes permanently curtail your potential to succeed.
Signs are lessons left behind by others who have experienced something either dreadful or worthwhile and so feel compelled to share the information with others. Most signs are completely logical and their purpose is to be informative, helpful and to preserve life, maybe yours!
It is therefore wise to take the time to read as many signs as you can, actual or virtual, and to realize their significance as it pertains to your own life. Why repeat a mistake at a tremendous cost to you or go about your life without direction when valuable aid is freely available wherever you choose to look?
Learn as much as you possibly can from others because while making some of your own mistakes is inevitable, it is usually not considered absolutely necessary.View Entire Blog | Comments (0)
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As mentioned in the blog about the quality of your friends, peer pressure could be either inspiring or dangerous but the focal point here is on why you would ever want to be like someone else. The best case scenario is that you will just be a poor impression of the person that you currently admire. For example, most everything that you want because someone else has it is typically never as satisfying as you think it will be when you do get it. Besides, rest assured that most people you admire usually have something that you definitely don’t want as well and believe it or not, if you ask them and they are honest that will tell you that they wish that they had something that you have. It all balances out to illustrate that it is best to have what you can handle and to be the kind of person that is true to what you can afford and honestly portray.
For example, at a party, when trying to imitate or to keep up with someone else, remember that drugs and alcohol usually affect people differently. If your friend can handle six drinks and still walk straight but you start to get queasy from one, you must have the intelligence to realize that it is not wise to allow yourself to be influenced by their ability to party under any circumstances. Another very important consideration is that what may not significantly affect one person may ruin the life of another.
The morning after the party, your friend might get a little headache but you might get a hard to control craving to do more and consequently open yourself up to a world of trouble. Guess who won’t be there when you struggle to stay sober and function normally? Is it really worth it? Are you cool if you follow your friends into the darkness or are you ultimately way cooler if you are the one brave or smart enough to say no to the potential destruction of your life?
You might be forever cool if you not only said no but you had the foresight to tell someone else to also say no….this is the sign of a leader and a real winner. Just as you might have been too young to resist temptation you would also have been too young to start taking drugs or consuming alcohol without the ability to consider the possible effects and consequences.
Take this information with you in whatever decisions you feel pressured to make especially those that are being made based on the fact that it feels or looks cool to some kid who will most likely never be around one day when you need them. Following is easy, in fact we all follow and few really lead but the most admired people in the world are typically leaders.
Your parents, your teachers, your bosses, your employees, your music and movie idols and eventually your very own kids can and will likely leave you in awe with their leading roles in some aspect of their lives. Learn about leadership and making good choices and you will automatically learn about the good side of responsibility. Responsible people typically get to enjoy more of life’s wonderful little gifts along the way.View Entire Blog | Comments (0)
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Being a kid is a one shot deal. Once you lose it, it is gone forever. Theoretically being a kid is the best part of your life. The rest is good too but being a kid is very special. There are so many innocent laugh out loud good times, not a worry in the world, pure love, no hate, no resentment, no racism, no judgment, no betrayal, no violence, no lies, no deceit, no anxiety, no stress and so on. Why would any level headed person throw it all away as soon as it became possible to do so?
Far too many kids do not have the choice to be kids for very long. If you do, cherish it. Growing up is forever. You might have 16-18 years of being a kid versus a possible 60- 70 years of not being one. The temptations thrown at kids today are often simply for commercial gain, someone’s sick enjoyment or just plain parental irresponsibility or neglect. Unfortunately, for all the good forces out there trying to make life special there are many more trying quite hard to make life worthless. Getting caught up in the wrong set of circumstances can rob a kid of their life before they have time to comprehend it well enough to control it. It is important to recognize where to go and what to avoid as early as possible.
Many journeys down the wrong path do not have a place to make a u-turn. It is very possible to damage your brain, either emotionally, philosophically or physically so that there is no going back. If you start out lucky enough to have choices, why risk it all for a few cheap thrills or to perhaps to impress some relatively unimportant at the time ? There is so much time to be a grown up and to have to deal with serious responsibilities and commitments. It is a good idea to enjoy the innocence of youth…if what you are doing doesn’t feel quite right, it probably isn’t and it is probably not a bad idea to ask for someone’s advice or help in making a better decision.
Protect your innocence, preserve your freedom and prevent the loss of your childhood by seeking information from the right people, those that really do care about you and your well being. There are selfless angels all around us that take on seemingly thankless jobs and who dedicate their lives to helping kids to enjoy their childhood while in preparation for a very confusing and imminently tough future, don’t push them away!View Entire Blog | Comments (0)
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